“In order for any action to be accepted by Allāh ta’ala it must fulfil two conditions:
1.The action must be in accordance with the teachings of the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam.
2.There must be sincerity in the action, i.e. it must be done for
the pleasure of Allāh ta’ala.
It is imperative that these two conditions are fulfilled,
otherwise the action will not be accepted in the Court of Allāh ta’ala.
Often, enough emphasis is not given to the first point: if an action,
no matter how sincere it is, does not conform to the teachings of
the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam, it will not be accepted.
This concept can be further understood through the example of
a passport and visa.
At immigration control the first thing that is checked is the validity
of the passport. If the officer does not accept its authenticity then
no matter how valid the visa is,the passport holder will not be able
Similarly, when it comes to our actions in the Court of Allāh ta’ala
they must first be in accordance to the teachings of
the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam.
Only then will their sincerity be checked. If both pass the test
then the action will be accepted by Allāh ta’ala.”
Insha ALLAH ,may ALLAH accept for our niat (intention)
and good deen ( deed)
假如真主允諾，求主接受我們的niat(舉意)和 deen (善行)。
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" We ~ Allah will show them Our signs in the universe,
and in their souls, until it becomes clear to them that It
~ the Quran is the truth. Is it not enough ~ for non-
believers that your Lord witnesses over all things?
直到他們明白古蘭經卻是真理" < 古蘭經41.53>
"Do not curse those who call to worship other than Allah,
so that they don't curse Allah out of spite and ignorance.
This is how We ~Allah appealed to each people its own
actions; then they will be brought back to their Lord
~ Allah, who will inform them of what they have been doing."
我這樣以每個民族的行為迷惑他們， 然後 ，
他們只歸於他們的主， 而要把他們生前的行為告訴他們。< 古蘭經6.108>
"And if you were in doubt about what We have revealed to
Our servant, then bring forth a book like the Quran; and call
your witnesses ~scientists to prove it contrary to Allah, if
you were truthful.
而祈禱你們的見證 ，如果你們是誠實的。< 古蘭經2.23>
" But you cannot and will never ~be able. So beware of
a fire whose fuel is men and stones prepared for blasphemers."
如果你們不能作證 ，你們絕不能作 --那麼 ，
" They only disbanded after they received knowledge ~of
their Bible fallaciously among them. And if it were not a word
from your Lord ~Allah that postponed it to a later date, it
would have been all settled among them then. And those
who inherited the Book ~the Bible from them are in great
suspicion of it. < Quran 42:14>
"Therefore call them ~to the Quran and straighten your ways
as you are ordered and don't follow their passions and say:
"I believe in what Allah revealed of the Book ~The Quran
and I was ordered to be just among you ~both Christians
and Jews; Allah is our Lord and your Lord, we have our
actions and you have your actions, no argument between
us and you, Allah brings us together and to Him we are
~all destined." < Quran 42:15>
they will become ideas,if you do not,
they will become desires, so fight against them.
If you do, they will become a form of determination and intention,
if you do not resist, they will become actions,
and if you do not follow them up with their opposite,
they will become habits that will be hard to quit."
-Ibn al-Qayyim rahimullah
-Ibn al-Qayyim rahimullah
this life, anything in this life that does not bring you closer to the Beloved is insignifigant in vain pointless and thus so is worrying or being sad because of it....if you want to be sad...their is something much greater to be sad about...and if you want to be happy,their is something greater to be happy about...if people only knew it...they would smash their heads for ever sheding a tear or breaking a laugh, on material things which seemed so vital,while forgetting the eternal things which alone are worth tears or laughter:
1. Namely, that no bearer of burdens can bear the burden of another;
2. That man can have nothing but what he strives for;
3.. That (the fruit of) his striving will soon come in sight:
4.. Then will he be rewarded with a reward complete;
5.. That to thy Lord is the final Goal;
6. That it is He Who granteth Laughter and Tears;
7. That it is He Who granteth Death and Life;
8. That He did create in pairs,- male and female,
9. From a seed when lodged (in its place);
10.. That He hath promised a Second Creation (Raising of the Dead);
11.. That it is He Who giveth wealth and satisfaction;
The (material) things which ye are given are but the conveniences of this life and the
glitter thereof; but that which is with God is better and more enduring: will ye not then
"Know that worldly life is merely a sport and a pastime [involving] worldly show and competition among yourselves, as well as rivalry in wealth and children. It may be compared to showers where the plantlike amazes the incredulous: then it withers away and you see it turning yellow; soon it will be just stubble. In the Hereafter there will be both severe torment and forgiveness as well as approval on the part of God. Worldly life means only the enjoyment of illusion.
Compete for forgiveness from your Lord, and a garden broader than the sky plus the earth, which has been prepared for those who believe in God and His messenger. Such is God's bounty which He gives to anyone He wishes. God possesses splendid bounty!
No disaster ever happens on earth nor to yourselves unless it is [contained] in a Book even before We brought it into existence. That is easy for God [to do], so that you should not feel sorry about what may have escaped you, nor yet rejoice in what He has given you. God does not love every conceited boaster who is miserly and orders people to be miserly. For anyone who turns away from it, God is Transcendent, Praiseworthy. "
We are choosing our wife for her permanent values; namely her religious devotions,
moral integrity, character etc. But believe me, if we try ourselves to combine a marriage,
we are almost sure to fail, because we have no knowledge.
Allah loves a servant when he puts his trust in Him. When we do so, it is illustrating how we rely upon Him for help, and proving our sincerity to Him, establishing that we recognise His infinite knowledge and wisdom.
Islam is likened to being as a house, and in my estimation nothing cements that house together as well as putting our trust in Allah.
It is related on the authority of Jabir ibn 'Abdullah that the Prophet (s.a.w) used to teach his companions to seek, through a special du'a (known as an istikharah), the guidance of Allah in
all matters which affected them. Rasulallah (s.a.w) said:
"When you are confused about what you should do in a certain situation, then pray two rak'at
of nafl salaat and read the following du'a (du'a of istikharah).
" I am surprised at the criticisms thrown at this du'a, and of its negligence. We are humans, powerless in this sphere of life, knowledgeable only enough to survive. So why shouldn't we
turn to Allah and seek His perfect help whenever we require it? Allah responds to the call of
His servant when he asks for guidance, and we are after all seeking to do something in order
to please Him.
Many wrong notions exist concerning istikharah. Many Muslims will pray, read the du'a, and run to bed expecting to see a dream showing them their future wife, what her favourite colour is, and some other weird fantasy. That is not the purpose of this salaat.
The results of an istikharah can take many forms. Basically, you go by your feelings, whether you now feel more favourable or not. Also, you may notice events have changed, either for or against you.
Finally, as a wonderful gift from Allah, you may be blessed with a dream. Note that you must follow the results of an istikharah, because not doing so is tantamount to rejecting Allah's guidance once you've asked for it. Also, you should firstly clear your mind, not have your mind already decided, and then afterwards follow the results willingly.
The Prophet (s.a.w) once sent Zainab a proposal of marriage. She refused to accept the proposal straight away, expressing her intention to refer the matter to Allah:
"I do not do anything until I solicit the will of my Lord." Allah, the Responsive, answered her plea for help and revealed an ayah approving of the marriage. We may seem shocked at her refusal to accept a proposal from what is the best husband any woman can have, yet she was just recognising that it is Allah who knows how successful such a marriage will be, and as a sign of appreciation, that reply is now preserved in our Holy Book: al Qur'an.
The Prophet (s.a.w) once said to Aisha: "I saw you in a dream for three nights when an angel brought you to me in a silk cloth and he said'Here is your wife', and when I removed (the cloth) from your face, look, it was yourself, so I said: 'if this is from Allah, let Him carry it out' ".
Marriage is a serious step, and requires the right attitude. If marriage completes half our faith, shouldn't that half be the best half?
A woman married for the wrong reasons can only weaken the Muslim household. Consider that she will be your life-long companion, the rearer of your children. Don't marry her for her worldly wealth, but for her wealth in Islamic wisdom and knowledge. Her status in this life is but illusionary, so choose her for her status in the sight of Allah.
Beauty is but superficial, but the beauty of Iman is transcendent. When asking Allah for a wife, call upon Him by His beautiful names, as He has commanded us:
"For Allah are certain and dignified names: therefore call upon Him by them"[7:189].
Ask for a companion who is devout, pious, patient and so on. Be among those who say:
"Our Lord, may our spouses and our offspring be a joy to our eyes and make us leaders of the righteous"[al-Furqan,74]. I cannot provide a better conclusion than saying that you must put your trust in Allah. You must have trust in His concern for us, and His ability to help us.
Allah says: "Put your trust in Allah, for Allah loves those who put their trust in Him"[3:159]. May Allah help us in our sincere efforts in following His commandments and the way of His beloved servant, and provide us with wives whom He loves.
"When my servants ask you concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I respond to the prayer of every supplicant when he calls on Me: let them also, with a will, listen to my call, and believe in Me: that they may walk in the right way"[2:186]
The answer is simple: Allah himself has described those qualities most loved by Him in the Qur'an, and in the ahadith there are numerous accounts of the virtuous attributes of a pious woman.
The following are some ayahs on the attributes of the wife you should be seeking, so note those fine and appreciative qualities. The following are some ayahs on the attributes of the wife you should be seeking, so note those fine and appreciative qualities.
"And women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity"[24:26]
"Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husbands) absence what Allah would have them guard"[4:34]
"It may be, if he divorced you (all), that Allah will give him in exchange consorts better than you, who submit (Muslims), who believe, who are devout, who turn to Allah in repentance, who worship (in humility), who travel (for faith) and fast..."[66:5].
And then, in surah Ahzab, is a full list of those qualities loved by Allah, qualities which by the way should be evident in both males and females. So, my dear brother, choose her for the following attributes:
-a Muslim woman
-a believing woman
-a devout woman
-a true woman
-a woman who is patient and constant
-a woman who humbles herself
-a woman who gives charity
-a woman who fasts and denies herself
-a woman who guards her chastity
-a woman who engages much in Allah's praise.
Among the four known perfect women was Maryam. She was loved by Allah because of her religious qualities:
"O Maryam! Worship your Lord: prostrate yourself, and bow down (in prayer) with those who bow down"[3:43].
Another was the wife of Pharaoh:
"And Allah sets forth, as an example to those who believe, the wife of Pharaoh: behold she said:
"O my Lord, build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden' "[66:11].
The Prophet (s.a.w) loved his wives because of their religious qualities. Aisha once related the fine qualities of Zainab:
"(Zainab) was the one who was somewhat equal in rank with me in the eyes of Allah's Messenger (s.a.w), and I have never seen a woman more advanced in religious piety than Zainab, more God-conscious, more truthful, more alive to the ties of blood, more generous and having more sense of self-sacrifice in practical life and having more charitable disposition and thus more closer to Allah, the Exalted, than her." Ahh, you think, but you'll never find such a woman!
Well, if that was true, Allah would not have described her in the first place, and furthermore those qualities were emanating from the women described above. Islam deals with reality, not fiction. Sure, the perfect woman doesn't exist, yet
"if you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good"[4:19].
Remember also that you are not perfect either. KNOWING WHO SHE IS To find that pious woman, there are two steps to be taken, and that firstone relies on your personal observation.
In surah Nisaa, Allah asks the believing women that they should
"lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments,"
and also that they "should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments"[24:31].
If you notice a woman acting modestly, being not too obvious through her actions (by lowering her voice when around men), one who attempts to hide her attractions (which includes her external beauty as well as her internal charms), then you know she has some of those precious qualities. When you see a woman unashamedly flirting, unconcerned about her revealing clothes, and freely converses with males- keep far, far away. I'm sure when you get married you want your wife to devote her love to you, not to twenty other "just good friends".
Through simple observation, you can get a glimpse of her nature; for example, the way she stands when conversing, how she maintains eye-contact, her clothes, where she spends her time etc. Look for her strong points, and don't stress on her weak ones. Yet, after all this, we still have to come to the most important topic.
You can look all you want ather, set a private investigator to track her movements, read her diaries (all of which I consider extreme and unIslamic), yet, my dear brother, no-one knows her heart and intentions, no-one knows whether she will turn sour or more religious, or whether you are suitable for each other, except for Allah.