Faith and Marriages
"A two rak'at prayer that a married person establishes is worthier than when a bachelor keeps up prayers at nights and fasts during the days."
-- The Holy Prophet [PBUH],
Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 384
(also in Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 217)
Imam Musa ibn Ja'far [a] narrated from his father [a] from the Holy Prophet [s] who said: "However much the Faith of a man increases, his regard for women increases."
--Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 228
Why? Sincere faith equates to righteous behavior. That simple.
A few Ideas to Nuture Your Faith Together:
*Find a verse from the Quran or hadith that you think best represents your marriage. Remind yourself of it constantly by framing it for display in your home, engraving it in your wedding band, or even making it a welcome message on your phone if you're able.
"...then strive together (as in a race) towards all that is good."
*Learn Together-- Read Quran together and dicuss what you've read weekly. Christians often call these little lessons (sometimes consisting of just a sentence) "devotionals." I think it's a great idea we can implement as Muslims, too. Other ideas include listening to Quran recitations together, working on Surah memorizations, holding family halaqas, and of course attending the mosque together.
Allah SWT said:
If you never felt pain or experienced problems, how would you know I'm the Healer?;
If you never made a mistake, how would you know I'm the Forgiver?;
If you were never hurt, how would you know I am the Comforter?
If your life was perfect, then why would you need Me?
*Work to improve your relationship with Allah! Faith can and should lend a sturdy, supportive foundation to your marriage. The first step is solidifying that foundation by working on your personal relationship with Allah. Your spouse can always help, inshAllah :)