love && affection towards your wife as a Muslim

And among His (God's) Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.
[Qur'an Surat 30 Verse 21]

Acknowledge, appreciate && apply the Sign of Allah subhana wa ta'ala : Love.

Abu Hurairah (Radi Allahu Anhu) reported: Messenger of Allah (Sal Allahu 'Alaihi Wasallam) said, "The believers who show the most perfect Faith are those who have the best behaviour, && the best of you are those who are the best to their wives".
[At-Tirmidhi].

Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (Radi Allahu Anhu) reported: Messenger of Allah (Sal Allahu 'Alaihi Wasallam) said, "The world is but a (quick passing) enjoyment; && the best enjoyment of the world is a pious && virtuous woman".
[Muslim].

Above Hadith clearly indicates the qualities of a virtuous woman && stresses the fact that if one wants success in this world && the Hereafter, he should select a pious wife. Such qualities the Muslimah possesses is that when her husband looks at her, she pleases him; when he orders her, she obeys him; && when he is absent, she guards herself (chastity) && the property of her husband.
[Abu Dawud and Nasa'i]

Abu Hurairah (Radi Allahu Anhu) reported: Messenger of Allah (Sal Allahu 'Alaihi Wasallam) said, "A believer must not hate (his wife) believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another". [Muslim].

Mu`awiyah bin Haidah (Radi Allahu Anhu) reported: I asked Messenger of Allah (Sal Allahu 'Alaihi Wasallam) "What right can any wife demand of her husband?''
He replied, "You should give her food when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, not strike her on the face, && do not revile her or separate from her except in the house".
[Abu Dawud].


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