幸福者與哲學家: 夫妻相處的人生哲學

作者: 張維真


蘇格拉底說，如果你有一個好妻子，你就會是一個幸福者，而如果你有一個不好的妻子，你會成為一個哲學家。據說，蘇格拉底的妻子是有名的潑婦，一次，他對蘇格拉底大發雷霆之後又把一盆水潑到他的頭上，蘇格拉底幽默地說：我知道，雷鳴之後必有大雨。

    以幽默應對自己所受的傷害，不是一般的境界，蘇格拉底因此而成為了不朽的哲學家。安薩里對善待妻子的理解是，善待妻子不僅僅是不去傷害妻子，而是容忍來自妻子的傷害。如何對待傷害自己的妻子，希臘哲學家與阿拉伯哲學家的觀點，有著驚人的相似。

    先知把今世最好的享受歸結為兩個，一個是禮拜，另一個是賢惠的妻子。禮拜作為穆斯林與自己的主溝通、交流的最佳時機，給禮拜者帶來的快樂、滿足和慰藉，是無與倫比的。因此，先知讓比拉里念宣禮宣布禮拜時，沒有直接說“你念宣禮”，而是說“你給我們愉悅吧！”一代大師伊本·泰米葉論及禮拜等功修時說，今世中就有一個樂園，誰沒有進入其中，誰就與後世的樂園無緣。在描述自己所體驗的拜主的樂趣時，他說：假如樂園的居民擁有我們這種幸福，那他們就太幸福了。

    先知對好妻子的描述是，每當丈夫看到她，她就知道怎樣取悅於自己的丈夫。
    好妻子並非一定是學富五車的學者，或力挽狂瀾的強者，或包辦家務的機器人，而是給自己的丈夫充分的空間，讓他有權利選擇自己的生活方式，而不是把自己的意志強加於他。周國平對好女人的看法是，男人在她面前，要多傻就有多傻，而不至於因為這種“傻”而被追究，或被彈劾。

    好妻子未必一定是非常精明、謹小慎微的人，但她應該是懂得丈夫的心，理解丈夫的優勢與弱勢，從而知道怎樣才能適應他，理解他，容忍他。 《人到四十》中的梁國輝，用迴避、忍讓來應對妻子的嘮叨、對自己的不體貼，並說了一句一個癌症患者絕望至極的話：她這樣嘮叨也好，因為她越是嘮叨，我就越是不想回家，而且，想到活在世上就要面對她的嘮叨，就覺得死亡不那麼可怕了，反而有一種如釋重負的感覺。

    梁國輝的話，其實詮釋了妻子在一個男人生活中的地位，也詮釋了為什麼先知把好的妻子列為生活中的兩大快事之一。妻子足以使人幸福一生，也足以使人傷痛一生。於是，就有了蘇格拉底所說的好妻子與壞妻子的兩種傑作：幸福者與哲學家。蘇格拉底因為對潑婦的容忍而選擇了哲學家的歸宿，與幸福者失之交臂；梁國輝對妻子的嘮叨和苛求有一句寬容的評語是“她也非常不容易”，兒子對妻子的嘮叨不滿時說“你怎麼可以這樣對待你媽呢？”

    某種意義上，梁國輝也是哲學家，他的哲學氣質不僅在於對妻子的寬容，而且在於對生活的深切感悟，他病情發作時躺在床上，感到極度疲憊，就讓把自己的手錶摘了，說：我現在才理解了老人們為什麼說錢財都是身外之物，此時此刻連手錶都感到那樣沉重。

    然而，更多的人，畢竟不是哲學家，不會選擇走哲學家的路，而會選擇走幸福者的路。因此，先知說：“女人是從男人的肋骨被造，你們要好生調理，不可折斷她。折斷既離異。”聰明的男人，會選擇用“哄”的藝術來對待妻子的“不講道理” ，用“情”去融化堅冰，而不是一味地用“理”去解釋對妻子而言是老生常談的生活道理，更不是用武力去“折斷肋骨”。

    這還不夠，女人需要“哄”，已是不爭的事實，但男人何嘗不需要“哄”呢？就像女人有時候“不講道理”，男人也會這樣！那麼，這種需要面前起作用的，不是什麼大道理，不是什麼至理名言，而是一種“情”的投入，一種潤物細無聲的東西。聰明的女人，會用這種一般人不用的“哄”的方式，去解決用哲學、理性和理論無法解決的生活問題，一如聰明的男人使用它一樣。其實，這也是一種哲學，一種不同尋常的哲學，是被投入了“情”的哲學，而不再是一種干巴巴的理性哲學。

    可惜的是，一些女人說，我不會用這種方式，我也不善於用它，因此不屑於用它，不用也罷！那麼，你就等著出現奇蹟吧，你就等著蘇格拉底、梁國輝們來做你的丈夫吧，讓哲學家來做你的丈夫吧！可是，生活中的奇蹟畢竟不佔多數，生活中的哲學家也是鳳毛麟角。更多的人，他們的興趣不在於去做哲學家，而在於去選擇屬於自己的那份幸福。如何讓自己的丈夫摘取幸福？不是通過你的學識，你的能幹，或你的兢兢業業，而是通過你的理解，體貼，通情達理，甚至是你的傻樣和可愛，就像男人的動人之處往往不在於他的精明，而在於他的可愛一樣。

    千萬不可嘮叨，嘮叨除了讓自己透支，讓他人傷心，毫無作用！你知道嗎，最聰明的女人，會“哄”自己丈夫，讓他開心，讓他有自己的空間，而不是讓你去包辦他的一切，監護他的一切，讓他沒有一點面子！你可以是一位女強人，一位事業有成的女人，但是，回到家裡，你應該是妻子，應該是女人氣十足的愛人，而不是統治者，苛求者，更不是嘮叨者。


作為女人，學會溫柔，學會體貼，學會“哄”自己的丈夫，那麼，幸福近在咫尺。

如果我們不能成為哲學家，或不想成為哲學家，那麼，讓我們不妨嘗試去做幸福者。願幸福伴隨我們中的每個人。

《給穆斯林學子的一封信》

《給穆斯林學子的一封信》是哈桑·班納為他到西方留學的學生們寫的信。

誠摯的建議中洋溢著伊斯蘭永恆的價值觀和精神。這封信是對收信人的一種提醒，也是對所有穆斯林的一種提醒，即，對穆斯林來說，人生的首要目的應該是令真主喜悅、依他的要求去生活。這封信也闡明，學習沒有終點，也不為物質利益；穆斯林要在學業上出類拔萃，為伊斯蘭服務，為人類的福祉而奮鬥。

我的伊斯蘭兄弟啊，願真主保護你。我讚美獨一的真主，願他福安穆罕默德先知，他是真主對全人類的慈憫，願他慈憫先知的家人、學生以及所有在審判日來臨前堅守Shariah的人們。願真主慈憫你帶著適宜、高貴的目的而去，帶著奉獻的精神而返。

願真主引領你用最甘美的知識服務伊斯蘭。

親愛的兄弟啊，你將置身於你不熟知的人群，不習慣他們的個性。而他們將從你的身上看到穆斯林的影子。所以，請讓他們在你身上看到優美、理解“穆斯林”的美德。

你擁有一個彌足珍貴的可信賴之人——你正直的妻子。為此而感恩，做她可靠的伴侶，給她舒適和幸福，與她分享快樂，享受自己的權利，履行自己的義務。

請閱讀下面的只言片語，這些話出於一位長者的愛和真誠，我希望你們擁有最幸福的人生。1、 我的兄弟啊，在一切事務上謹守真主的要求。要明白，他無時無刻不在註視著你。他知道你眼睛的背叛，清楚你內心所隱瞞。努力讓他喜悅你的言行。

若你不留心真主，惡魔就會浸入你，用怪念頭、慾望征服你。親愛的兄弟，當心靈關注著真主的時候，惡魔無法靠近；一旦你忽視了真主，惡魔就湊上前來，用怪念頭和慾望填充你心間。所以，記念真主吧，保持內心的完整；全心請求真主保護你免遭傷害。

2、 按時履行真主的定制，不要用工作忙或者其他藉口加以推遲——這是欺騙自己：不要順從私慾，以免私慾使你叛離真主的大道……（古蘭經38:26馬堅版）

要知道，我親愛的兄弟，如布哈里聖訓所述，沒有比主命功修更能讓你靠近真主的事情了。所以，在這些事情上不要偷懶，這是真主對你的權利。堅守拜功，完美齋戒。若你的確無能力齋戒，那麼真主以此減輕你的負擔：難以齋戒者，當納罰贖，即以一餐飯，施給一個貧民。自願行善者，必獲更多的善報。齋戒對於你們是更好的，如果你們知道。 （古蘭經2:184馬堅版）但不要把這段經文當藉口為自己開脫。

在西方齋戒是困難的，但這會給你帶來貴重的回賜，是後世的川資；這是讓真主喜悅的事情，是對自己的忠誠。所以非不得已不要不封齋。無須說，這些主命功修其實是你的財富。揮霍了財富的人，還談什麼明日的收益呢？

3、 盡可能利用自己的時間完成副功修。禮聖行拜。向真主祈求寬恕，讚美真主。記住，真主回答人們在旅行中、移居國外時所作的篤阿；所以保持謙卑，悄悄增加你的篤阿，不斷記念真主。

先知建議阿里不斷為記念真主而濕潤自己的舌頭。不要荒廢了助你完成責任、保持順從的道路。這是一種投資，將為你帶來豐厚報酬。在漫不經心的民眾中記念真主，讓你彷彿一盞明燈。利用這次機遇——對於那些善於抓住機遇、從中獲益的人們，才會在後世豐收。

4、 多誦讀、多理解、多沉思古蘭經。她是痊癒心靈的良方，撫慰你的心靈。每天以誦讀古蘭經開始，以誦讀古蘭經結束，這讓你擁有最好的開始，最完滿的結束。

5、 在愉悅的今世生活中，你將看到哪些讓心靈偏斜，印入頭腦，吸引眼睛，迷惑那些虛弱的心靈。不要讓這些事情引誘你偏離美德之路，讓你忘記後世：不要覬覦我所用以供給他們中各等人享受的，那是今世生活的浮華，我用來考驗他們，你的主的給養，是更好的，是更久的。你應當命令你的信徒們禮拜，你​​對於拜功，也應當有恆，我不以給養責成你，我供給你。善果只歸於敬畏者。 （古蘭經20:131-132馬堅版）

要知道，我親愛的兄弟，在真主的眼裡，一切享受不如一隻蚊子的翅膀重，既不能帶來榮耀，也不能帶來美德，它們只是慾望的陷阱。不要讓惡魔欺騙了你，否則你將落入墮落的罪惡深淵。

常記真主的言辭：迷惑世人的，是令人愛好的事物，如妻子，兒女，金銀，寶藏，駿馬，牲畜，禾稼等。這些是今世生活的享受，而真主那裡，卻有優美的歸宿。 （古蘭經3:14馬堅版）真主之書日夜講述著這些事實。所以，不要成為喜愛今世生活勝過後世的人們中的一員，不要被事物的表象欺騙，而不明就裡。

一切當代文明帶來的愉悅最終只會導致痛苦。這痛苦將超越愉悅，讓那原本的甜美消逝。若你要前行，就不要在意這些人們的今世，不要讓它們控制你、欺騙你。

6、親愛的兄弟啊，真主為我們設定某些事物是Haram（不合法）的，而有些人則自認為這些是Halal（合法）的。所以當他們做Haram之事時，毫無羞恥之心，不能控制自己。你既不要認同他們的怪念頭，也不要和他們一起為惡。要知道，你將在真主面前應答你的所為，審判日不容藉口。

7、不要和他們的姑娘們為伴，不要和她們有什麼特殊的友誼或者情感糾葛。若這種關係對他人來說是一種罪過，那麼對你來說就是二倍的罪過，你應該很清楚這是什麼意思。我們知道你是個正派而值得信任的人，我說這些只是提醒你，以免你犯錯誤，希望你永遠不摔跤。願你在自己的純潔和尊嚴中獲得滿足。

8、關於酒，不要碰，不要拿習氣當藉口，因為當真主將酒作為Haram的事物時，他清楚各種類型的習氣，並未將某個國家或民族設定在這項Haram事物之外。真主確定無疑地將酒設為Haram之物。不要讓一滴酒佔據你的胃腹，否則它將成為純潔皮膚上的一個黑點。一定要下決心不飲酒，因為一旦你頭腦受蒙蔽，飲了一次，就會有第二次、第三次，最後落入深坑，難爬出來，令你和他人受罪。就算你為這項罪過請求寬恕，也不能與先前的純潔和可信相媲美了。

9、不要嘗試賣Haram食物的餐廳的任何東西。 Halal食物足夠滿足我們的食慾。不要嘗試Haram的食物，讓自己的身體建立在這類食物之上，令它嘗試火的刑罰。真主禁止食用不潔之物：准許他們吃佳美的食物，禁戒他們吃污穢的食物。 （古蘭經7:157馬堅版）所以遠離污穢，親近佳美。

10、關於賭場、夜店諸如此類的場所，要知道，你的時間彌足珍貴，不要浪費其中。我看過這句格言，時間就是金錢，我不贊同。時間比金錢更寶貴，時間就是生命。難道不是嗎？生命就是由一段一段的時間構成的，你永遠不知道她在哪一刻結束。親愛的兄弟啊，抓緊你的時間，做重要的事情，在合法的事情上求喜悅。

天空多麼寧靜，大地多麼美好。花園多麼清新，對你來說，其中寫滿跡象。大海多麼有力，空氣中滿是養分。從這些慰藉中汲養你的靈魂，重獲精力。不要漫不經心地丟擲你的時光，這會讓你遠離美好，走向罪惡。

11、保持警覺的洞察力，平易近人，公正處事。不要讓你的善良忘記了他人的低劣，不要讓他人的低劣讓你忘記了他們的美好。像研究員、審查員一樣研究他們。了解他們事情的全部，然後用洞察力詳細查看。向你的民眾反饋你所發現的美好，獲取勝利和支持。其餘之物，還給他們，撣掉手上的灰塵，清零頭腦中的垃圾，然後再回家。

你會發現有群人詆毀你的先知，誤讀你的古蘭經，羞辱你的人民。不要和這類人同坐，直到他們改變話題——就算這是你必須參加的對話。以優美的方式和他們討論。向他們闡述你所知道的美好，避免那些導致仇恨和混亂（fitnah）的有爭議話題。

你必定不能使你所喜愛的人遵循正道，真主卻能使他所意欲的人遵循正道，他知道誰是遵循正道者。 （古蘭經28:56馬堅版）

親愛的兄弟啊，要知道，對於召人於正道，行動遠勝於言語。你美好的品性是更有益的、更有成效的，所以請完善自己、正直你的行為，以此保護你的宗教和民族，以此召人於正路。一旦有機會在他們的會議、群體中演講，自己提前要做好準備。選擇那些不會產生混亂、不會影響團結的題目。不要站在他們的立場上思考，因為真主援助敬畏者。保持積極的心態，不冒犯他人的信仰，向他們說明其固有的美好，並彰顯我們的信仰。這樣，你將大大提升自己的認識，獲得激勵。

最後，雖然還有很多話想說，但我擔心繼續講下去，你可能會忘掉上面我說過的話；冗長的談話的確讓人無法精力集中。願真主提升你們成為最好的繼承人，願他使平安與你們相伴。願他保護你們二人，賜予你們敬畏者所希冀的美好。對於你們的信仰、責任和你們行為的果實，我托靠真主。願真主賜予你們和平、仁慈和吉慶。阿敏。

來源：http://www.jannah.org/articles/letter.html

關於作者：

哈桑·班納（Sayyed Hassan Al Banna），1906年出生於埃及一學者家庭。 1928年，建立Ikhwan al Muslimeen（即兄弟會）。這次旨在復蘇伊斯蘭的運動很快遍及埃及地區。1948年12月，兄弟會受到打壓，數千成員被逮捕。哈桑·班納倖免，但1949年2月被暗殺。

(責任編輯：yusuf)

★ Seven Qualities that Allah Loves ★ 真主喜愛7種條件的人

1. Tawbah (Repentance) 懺悔的人

 إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلتَّوَّٲبِينَ

 "For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly (in repentance)"
 [Surah Al-Baqarah 2:222]

 真主的確喜愛悔罪的人 ( 古蘭經 第二章 黃牛章 /第 222節 )

2. Taharah (Purification) 潔淨的人

وَيُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُتَطَهِّرِينَ

 "Allah loves those who keep themselves pure and clean."
 [Surah Al Baqarah 2:222]

真主的確喜愛潔淨的人 ( 古蘭經 第二章 黃牛章 /第 222節 )

3. Taqwa (Piety) 敬畏的人

إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُتَّقِينَ

"For Allah loves the righteous (the pious)."
 [Surah Al Tawbah 9:4]

真主的確喜愛敬畏者的 ( 古蘭經 第九章 戰利品章 / 第 4 節 )

4. Ihsan (Goodness & Perfection) 行善者

وَٱللَّهُ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُحۡسِنِينَ

"For Allah loves those who do good"
 [Surah Ali'Imran 3:134]

 真主是喜愛行善者的  ( 古蘭經 第三章 儀姆蘭的家屬章 / 第 134 節 )

5. Tawakkul (Trust in Allah) 信託真主

إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُتَوَكِّلِينَ

"For Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
 [Surah Ali'Imran 3:159]

真主的確喜愛信託於真主的  ( 古蘭經 第三章 儀姆蘭的家屬章 / 第 159 節 )

6. Adl (Justice) 公道者

 إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُقۡسِطِينَ

"For Allah loves those who judge in equity."
 [Surah Al Ma'idah 5:42]"

真主的確是喜愛公道者的 ( 古蘭經 第五章 筵席章 / 第 42 節 )


إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُقۡسِطِينَ

For Allah loves those who are fair (and just)."
 [Surah Al Hujurat 49:9]

真主卻是喜愛公道的 ( 古蘭經 第四十九章 寢室章 / 第 9 節 )

7. Sabr (Patience)

 وَٱللَّهُ يُحِبُّ ٱلصَّـٰبِرِينَ

"And Allah Loves those who are firm and steadfast(As-Sabirin (the patient))."
 [Surah Ali'Imran 3:146]

真主是喜愛堅忍者的 ( 古蘭經 第三章 儀姆蘭的家屬章 / 第 146 節 )


. : : .♥ Alhamdulilah! ♥. : : .
. : : . • For today . : : .
. : : . • For yesterday . : : .
. : : . • For the possibility of a tomorrow . : : .
. : : .♥ Alhamdulillah for everything ♥. 

轉 : 成功之路在哪裡？金錢嗎？權力吗？

現實社會中，的確有很多人在追求成功，以為考上大學，考上名牌大學就是成功，以為當上了企業家有了錢就是成功了，以為找到一個有錢、有權的當官的老公就是成功。找到一份好工作就是成功。以為成了百萬富翁就是成功，那麼真正的成功到底在哪裡呢，成功的意義又是什麼呢？

在當今物慾橫流、道德淪喪的社會中，人人都在追求成功，我們出生在回民家庭，從小家人就讓我們好好學習，希望我們考上一個好大學，然而到了大學裡，我們也捲入了滾滾洪流中，自己到底在追求什麼樣的成功？在追求權力的成功嗎？為什麼會有頂級官員自殺呢？在追求財富的成功嗎？為什麼會有億萬富翁自殺呢？在追求歌星、影星的成功嗎？雖然他們演出一場就會有幾萬甚至十幾萬的收入，但在記者的採訪當中，他們幕後都在吸食毒品、搖頭丸，在賓館時常搞的亂七八糟的，為什麼會這樣呢？這些有錢、有權、有地位的人他們成功了嗎？如果說他們成功的話，他們為什麼會自殺呢？為什麼他們會醉生夢死呢？用我們的理智想一想，他們絕對不是成功，成功不會僅僅是這些！從心理學的角度講，他們的心是病態的。英國倫敦大學的博士生導師李文剛曾經談到：如何成為一個真正的心理學家，他說：“所有的知識都來源於這個宇宙的超自然的力量，如果不去研究這個超自然的力量的存在，那麼研究心理學是解決不了任何問題的，研究心理諮詢也解決不了任何心理問題，因為，所有的問題都跟這個宇宙的創造有關，只有把它研究透了，才能知道解決這些心理問題的根本辦法在哪裡。”

自從有人類以來，就有著三種生活方式：

（1）自然和生產方式，也喻為自然的外衣，我們身上所穿的衣服再漂亮也僅僅是一件自然的衣服，哪怕它是用金子做成的，哪怕它是鑲滿了銀子，鑲滿了鑽，我們所住的房子，不管是瓦房還是樓房、皇宮，僅僅都是一件自然的外衣，生不帶來死不帶去，終究不屬於我們，對男人來說他的妻子、兒女是他的一件衣服，終究不屬於他，對女人來說，她的丈夫、兒女也是她的一件衣服，終究不屬於她，如果一個僅僅依靠這些自然的外衣滿足而驕傲的話，那麼他們和動物沒有什麼兩樣甚至還不如動物。

虎皮、豹皮、駱駝皮、孔雀毛等，這些動物的皮毛比人類的衣服漂亮多了，人類現在還無法長出這樣漂亮的皮毛，所以，現在頂級的服裝設計師拼命地把這些動物的皮毛安放在人的身上，裁剪下來點綴人的身體，同樣，螞蟻的房子，蜜蜂的蜂巢令國際頂級的建築師費爾曼（法國）嘆言，他說：“人類的建築技術已經登峰造極了，卻無法模仿螞蟻的房子，蜜蜂的蜂巢那樣的建築方式。螞蟻的房子不需要空調，不需要通風設備，卻一年四季恆溫；蜜蜂的蜂巢結構合理，空間利用合理，建築師卻仿造不了。”所以，人如果在這個層面上追求的話是和動物沒有什麼兩樣的。

（2）文化層面的生活方式（知識、財富、權力）

古羅馬、古埃及、古巴比倫……所有的古老的文化都在歷史上已經煙消雲散了，中國的唐朝、秦始皇的文化也已經在歷史長河中煙消雲散了。那麼目前這個追求文化成功；追求學歷成功的中國能給人們帶來成功嗎？

舉例來驗證一下，2003年北京大學有13個大學生自殺，04、05、06年又有7個大學生自殺。有跳樓的有喝毒藥的，08年5月份，黑龍江省會哈爾濱每2天就有1個大學生自殺，不到一個月，哈爾濱的大學生就死了20個，在08年2、3月份，廣州某大學連續兩個月4個研究生跳樓自殺，08年， 中國人民大學一位女博士也跳樓自殺了……自殺事件很多起，為什麼呢？他們有學歷。有知識了呀，為什麼還要放棄生命呢？北京大學一大學生在自殺遺書當中寫到：我長這麼大，只知道讀書考大學，不知道人活著是為什麼，不知道人生意義在哪裡……

北京大學是全國的名牌大學，他們考上了這所學校為什麼還要自殺呢，他們不是成功了嗎？他們不知道成功的意義在哪裡！

06年，中國心理危機干預中心統計，每年中國的大、中、小學生的非正常死亡，（包括自殺、憂鬱症、打架鬥毆）都有15萬左右，甘肅中學有300多學生都因為心理因素而導致死亡，即心理性死亡，為什麼呢？

還有教授的自殺，07年，北京師範大學的一位教授，跳樓自殺，08年4月份，中國人民大學一位博士生導師，文化人類學的教授也跳樓自殺，她研究了20多年的文化人類學，始終沒有搞明白為什麼文化人類學解決不了中國的物慾橫流、道德淪喪的社會問題，於是她在迷誤中自殺了！ 08年10 月28日，中國政法大學的校園裡，一位博士生導師在課堂上被學生砍死了，因為這位受人尊敬的、德高望重的剛從法國留學回來的43歲的教授侮辱了幾個學生的女朋友，他們這麼有知識，卻這麼不光彩的死去了，這麼有知識為什麼會做出這樣的事呢？真主說：“你們只獲得了很少的知識，是你們有知識呢，還是真主更有知識呢？”又說：“你們不要驕傲自滿的在大地上行走，你們不能把大地踏穿，絕不能去與山比高。”

（財富界）中國現在有很多的千萬富翁，億萬富翁，世界金融危機至今還影響著中國，廣東上千家工廠倒閉，工人全部回家，在去年，據中國心理危機干預中心統計：千萬以上的大老闆已經有180多個自殺了，湛江的一位老闆跳樓身亡，四川的一位地產聖手，因金融危機導致股市下跌，巨大的收入瞬間降低了許多，他一下子失去了生活的意義，於是跳樓自殺了……在我們有信仰的人看來，他很傻，不就是損失了一點金錢嗎？留著生命還可以重新開始啊，可是，他選擇了自殺，難道人活著就是為了那點股票金錢嗎？的確，在那些沒有真信的人眼裡，他們窮的只剩下錢了，金錢就是他們唯一的人生需要，財富就是他們的唯一精神價值，所以他們承受不住挫折，因而選擇了自殺，自殺的例子太多太多了，他們都是沒有精神支柱，是墜落的，他們成功了嗎？

聖訓：當一個人歸真之後，只有三樣東西屬於他：川流不息的施捨，教授給人們的有益知識，清廉兒女們的嘟哇。

（權力界）還有市長、省長等乾部自殺，為什麼呢？他們有知識，有財富、有權力、有地位、他們成功了嗎？

真主說：“傷哉！那些詆毀者、誹謗者，他們聚積財產而當作武器，他們以為他的財產能使他不滅，絕不然，他必定被投在毀滅坑中，你怎能知道那坑中有什麼？是真主燃著的烈火。（《古蘭經》第106章1-6節）”因此，知識、財富、權力沒能給我們帶來真正的成功。即擁有文化的生活方式也不能使我們成功！

（3）信仰造物主（擁有信仰）的生活方式

感贊偉大的安拉給了我們穆斯林最優美的生活方式，我們只有信仰了安拉，那麼我們的生活才是最安寧、最幸福的，只有認識了安拉，知道我們是被造物了，才會知道我們所有財富、學歷、知識、權力等等都來自於安拉，這些是我們帶不到墳墓中的，只有在認主拜主，並號召別人認主​​的過程中，才有最高的人生價值。所以，這件信仰的外衣才是最完美的一件外衣。

感贊安拉給我們最真、最貴的一句言辭：倆一倆海，印蘭拉乎，穆罕默德熱蘇龍拉黑——天堂的鑰匙。

安拉創造了人類，派遣了十二萬四千多的聖人，下降了104部經典，告訴了人類，這個宇宙的創造者是真主，告訴了人類這個宇宙的真理是：清真言。

當前基督教的聖經有17種版本，到底哪一個是正宗的，到底相信哪一個呢？這樣的經典能相信嗎，能值得我們去追隨嗎？

而《古蘭經》是封印了以前所有經典的一部經典，並有穆聖給我們人類傳​​達真理，感贊安拉給了我們最優美的外衣——真理的外衣，使得我們安寧、幸福的生活著。

真主在《古蘭經》中說：“阿丹的子孫啊，我確已為你們創造了遮蓋羞體的衣服和修飾的衣服，而敬畏的衣服尤為優美，這確是安拉的跡象，以便你們覺悟。”（《古蘭經》第7章26節）

當今社會裡，多部分人都穿的衣服只是用來遮蓋羞體和修飾自身，甚至只用來修飾自身而不用來遮蓋羞體，這不是最美的，真美在哪裡呢？敬畏安拉，聽從安拉命令，按照《古蘭經》的指導去裝扮我們自己，印沙安拉，這樣才是真正的美。

我們不能隨著沒有信仰的人走，非穆斯林過生日吃吃喝喝，跳啊唱啊，有意義嗎？我們穆斯林在那天多禮拜，感贊安拉做嘟哇，多叫一些親戚朋友聚集到一起講真主的大能，講伊斯蘭知識不是更好，更有意義嗎？我們自己對伊斯蘭有堅定的態度，以便我們更好、更容易的勸化家人，勸化親戚朋友。

穆聖時代沒有發達的經濟，沒有高級的電信工具，然而他們能將“色倆目”能將“伊斯蘭”傳播到更多的地方，而今天的我們，有了電腦、電視、電話、手機等，我們把伊斯蘭傳播出去了嗎？我們把孩子們叫到清真寺裡去學習了嗎？我們給兒女們教授伊斯蘭的生活方式了嗎？我們的缺陷太多，我們沒有更多的藉口可找，反醒吧，同胞們！

“主啊！如果你拿走我的生命，那麼讓我歸真在伊瑪尼上吧！”“主啊！如果你留我在這個世上，那麼讓我活在為你奮鬥的道路上吧！”

當我們不理解他人時，不知事情的原由時，不知他人的舉意及目的時，我們最好保持沉默，不要背談。

我們做為穆斯林，最高的自我價值是完全的服從安拉，追隨使者的道路，要知道最大的成功是後世的成功，導人至善的方法：是穆聖怎麼說，你們就怎麼說，穆聖怎麼做，你們就怎麼做。

《古蘭經》：“你們中當有一部分人導人於至善，並勸善戒惡，這等人卻是成功的。”

《古蘭經》：“：“你們應信仰真主以及使者，你們憑自己的財產和生命為主道而奮鬥，那對於你們是更好的，（第61章11節）如果你們知道，現在的人，憑財產和生命為房子、為工作、為子女、為家人們奮鬥，這樣做最終會得到什麼呢？我們要知道今世是短暫的，而後世是長久的。眼前的利益，今世的利益被我們所迷戀，我們在今世過的幸福了，也享受了，那我們有沒有想過後世呢？

《古蘭經》：“真的，真主的朋友將來沒有恐懼，也不憂愁，他們就是信道而敬畏的人，在今世和後世，他們都將得到佳音，真主的諾言是毫釐不爽的，那卻是偉大的成功。”

《古蘭經》：“信道而且遷居，並以自己的財產和生命為主道而奮鬥者，這等人在真主看來，是品級更高的，這等人確是成功的。

The most belove of companion " Ibn 'Abbas" radiyallahu anhu

Abdullah b. 'Abbas (d. 68/687) is considered to be the most knowledgeable of the Companions in tafsir. [A book entitled tanwir al-miqbas min Tafsir Ibn Abbas (Beirut, n.d.) is a complete tafsir of the Qur'an.

all explanations of which are said to go back to Ibn 'Abbas. On the question of authenticity, see al-Sawwaf, op.cit. p. 140.] He has been called 'tarjuman al-qur'an', the interpreter of the Qur'an.

Since he was related to the Prophet, being his cousin, and his maternal aunt Maimuna being one of the Prophet's wives, he was very close to the Prophet Muhammad and learnt much about the revelation.

It is said that he saw the Angel Gabriel twice. Apart from his detailed knowledge of everything concerning tafsir, he is also given the credit for having emphasised one of the basic principles of 'ilm al-tafsir which has remained important to this day, namely, that the meaning of words, especially of unusual words in the Qur'an ought to be traced back to their usage in the language of pre-Islamic poetry. There is a long list of such explanations quoted by Suyutl. [Itqan 1 pp.120-33.]



Example:

The following is an example of tafsir from a sahabl, namely Ibn 'Abbas, confirmed by 'Umar:

'So celebrate the praises of your Lord, and ask for His forgiveness. Verily! He is the one who accepts the repentance and forgives' (110: 3).

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: 'Umar used to make me sit with the elderly men who had fought in the battle of Badr. Some of them felt it (did not like that3 and said to 'Umar: 'Why do you bring in this boy to sit with us, while we have sons like him?'

'Umar replied 'Because of what you know of his position' (i.e. his religious knowledge).

One day 'Umar called me and made me sit in the gathering of those people, and I think that he called me just to show them (my religious knowledge). 'Umar then asked them in my presence: 'What do you say about the interpretation of the statement of Allah'.

'When comes help of Allah, and the conquest . . .' (110: 1).

Some of them said: 'We are ordered to praise Allah and ask for His forgiveness, when Allah's help and the conquest (of Makka) comes to us'. Some others kept quiet and did not say anything. On that 'Umar asked me: 'Do you say the same, O Ibn 'Abbas?' I replied: 'No'. He said: 'What do you say then?' I replied: 'That is the sign of the death of Allah's apostle which Allah informed him of. Allah said:

'(O Muhammad) when comes the help of Allah (to you against your enemies) and the conquest (of Makka) (which is the sign of your death) - you should celebrate the praises of your Lord and ask for His forgiveness, and He is the One who accepts the repentance and forgives' (110:1-3). On that 'Umar said: 'I do not know anything about it other than what you have said'. [Bukhari, Vl, No. 494.]

Another short example is:

Narrated 'Ata': When Ibn 'Abbas heard:

'Have you not seen those who have changed the favour of Allah into disbelief?' (14: 28).

He said: 'Those were the disbelieving pagans of Makka. * [Bukhari Vl No. 222.]

Last letter to her boyfriend:

"No matter how much we date each other, we won’t be able to have each other unless Allah wills it. So let’s leave all the Haram ways that guide us to each other and let’s take instead the path leading us to Allah… Wallahi on that path, we would meet if we are destined for each other…

but if we are not, then Allah, our Creator, All-Knower of the unseen and the seen, ...surely knows what is better for us. Let’s fear Allah, let’s trust Him and trust what He already decreed for us. Always remember that “whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out [of every difficulty]. And He provides for him from sources he never could imagine. And if anyone puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him.” [Qur’an 65:2-3]..

So Allah will surely grant us a way out of this desperation that we may feel now. Our “love” nothing but a whisper of shaitan! It’s not true love! True love last forever but ours will turn to hate on the Judgement day! I don’t want to become your enemy on the day of Judgement! Don’t you know that "Al Akhillaa (friends, lovers who had forbidden relationships…) on that Day will be foes one to another (they will be like enemies) except Al-Muttaqun (the ones who feared Allah) " [al-Zukhruf 43:67] And even if this Haram love turns to Halal one day, there will be no barakah (blessing) on it, because it grew under Allah’s wrath. And what a bad example we would give for our children when they ask us how we met"

I miss you my friend

All those crazy things you said
You left them running through my head
You're always there, you're everywhere
Right now I wish you were here

All those crazy things we did
Didn't think about it, just went with it
You're always there, you're everywhere
But right now I wish you were here

Damn! Damn! Damn!
What I'd do to have you here, here, here
(I wish you were here)
Damn! Damn! Damn!
What I'd do to have you near, near, near
(I wish you were here)


I love, the way you are
It's who I am, don't have to try hard
We always say, say it like it is
And the truth, is that I really miss You Guys !

Don't Let The Duniya Deceive You

"Allah Says In The Quran: Do Not Forget Your Portion Of The Duniya
Imaam Qurtubi Says: That Your Portion Of This Duniya Is Your Kuffan, That The Only Thing You Will Take From This Duniya, Is Your Kuffan, You Know, Everything Else You Leave Behind, Your Car, Your Bank Balances, You Take Nothing, Your Popularity, Your Fancy Scarfs, Your Nice Homes, Everything, Your Nice Garments, Everything Remains Behind, What You Go To In The Grave Is Those 2 Kuffans, Thats It! and This Is A Reality Of The Duniya But We Are Often Decieved By The Duniya, One Of The Most Beautiful Example and I've Given This Example A 100 Times Of The Reality Of The Duniya, Is The Example Given By Imaam Gaazali-Rahimullah, About The Duniya, He Speaks About A Man Who's Walking Through A Jungle and While He's Walking, He Looks Behind and He Sees A Lion Chasing Him, And He Runs and He Comes To A Well and He Jumps Into The Well and While He's Falling, He Manages To Hold On To A Rope, And He Breathes A Sigh Of Relief and Looks Up and He Sees The Lion Hovering Over Him, Waiting For Him And He Looks Down and Beneath Him Is A Large Serpent With His Mouth Open Waiting For Him To Fall, And The Only Support He Has Is The Rope and After A Little While, He Sees A Black Mouse and A White Mouse, Set Upon The Rope and The Begin To Nimble It, Above Is The Lion, Beneath Is The Serpent and The Only Support He Has Is The Rope, And Now That's Being Nibmled At and In Front Of Him, He Sees A Honey Comb and He Looks At This Honey Comb, And Then He Sticks His Finger Into The Honey and He Takes That Honey Upon His Finger and He Places Upon His Tongue And The Sweetness Of The Honey, Momentarily Makes Him Froget The Lion, The Snake and Even The 2 Mice Imaam Gaazali-Rahimullah Says: That The Lion Is Death, Which Is Always Chasing You, The Serpent Is Your Grave, Into Which Every Person Will Fall and If He's A Good Person, It Will Be A Garden From The Paradise, And If He's Evil, It Will Be Pits From Jahannam (Hell) and The Rope Is His Life and The Black Mouse, Denotes The Night and The White Mouse Denotes The Day and They Are Always Nimbling Upon Your Life And The Honey Is The Duniya, A Man Tastes The Sweetness Of The Duniya and He Forgets Death, He Forgets The Grave, He Forgets A Day Will Come That He Will Die and He Will Have To Stand In Front Of His Creator

This Is The Reality Of The Duniya"


by Sheikh Zahir Mahmood

The Importance Of Time In Islam

There are among those who believe in the popular saying as "Time is Gold." Time in Islam is more than Gold or any precious material thing in this world. Of all religions, only Islam guides mankind not only to the importance of time but also how to value it. Allah the Almighty and His Messenger, Prophet Mohammad (PBUH), very clearly tell us the value of time, why we must not waste it and how we can make use of our time wisely to increase our Eeman (Faith) and thus attain success, especially eternal success in the life hereafter.

The following are some of the most important duties demanded of Muslims:

Ensuring benefiting from time
Utilizing leisure time
Racing for good deeds
Learning from the passage of time
Seeking the superior times
Planning and organizing time
Fulfillment of time commitments
Necessary awareness of time wasters
Both the Qur'an and the Sunnah enjoin Muslims to be conscious of time. We are reminded that life in this world is nothing but temporary. We never know when death has been appointed for us. We must value time for the satisfaction of Allah the Almighty. For our guidance and success, we must never waste time nor abuse it.

Ibn Abbas narrated that Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:

"There are two blessings which many people lose: (They are) health and free time for doing good." (Bukhari 8/421)

Indeed, we displease Allah the Most High when we abuse time. We must remember that time must be spent to fulfill our very purpose in life that is to worship Allah all throughout our lives. Allah makes this very clear in the Qur'an when He says:

I have only created Jinns and Men, that they may serve Me. No Sustenance do I require of them, nor do I require that they should feed Me. For Allah is He Who gives (all) Sustenance, Lord of Power, Steadfast (for ever). Qur'an (51:56-58)

But celebrate the praises of thy Lord, and be of those who prostrate themselves in adoration. And serve thy Lord until there come unto thee the Hour that is certain (i.e., death). Qur'an (15:98-99)

Everything we do in accordance with the Qur'an and the Sunnah is an act of worship. Such worship must be done sincerely for the pleasure of Allah alone. We should make use of our time (which includes our "free time") in doing beneficial things especially those that will make us closer to Allah and earn His Mercy.

We have to make use of our time wisely by knowing more of the Qur'an and the Sunnah. We must have correct knowledge of what Allah and His Messenger Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) have commanded us to do and at the same time to refrain from what they have forbidden us. This is imperative so that we earn Allah's pleasure and reward. Allah the Exalted makes it very clear, when he says:

O ye who believe! Obey Allah, and obey the messenger, and make not vain your deeds! Qur'an (47:33)

Corollary to the above divine commandment, we must ask ourselves: Have we been obeying Allah and His Messenger? To what extent have we used our time learning the Qur'an and the Sunnah in order to have correct Eeman (Faith), to do righteous deeds, to enjoin the Truth or do Da'wah, and be patient and constant? As time passes by, are we sure we are devoting our time for the sincere worship and pleasure of Allah the Most High? Are we taking guidance from the following very enlightening Ayat (Qur'anic verses)?

By (the Token of) Time (through the ages), Verily Man is in loss, Except such as have Faith, and do righteous deeds, and (join together) in the mutual teaching of Truth, and of Patience and Constancy. Qur'an (103:1-3)

In line with the above Qur'anic injunction, we have to discipline ourselves by giving value to the importance of time. We must be prompt in doing good deeds, which will increase our faith and subsequently enable us to gain Allah's pleasure and mercy.

Islam encourages Muslims to care for time, to utilize it wisely and not to waste it and to benefit from it. Besides, it holds them responsible for their time.

We have to remember that on the Day of Judgment we shall be asked how we spent our lives, wealth and knowledge. In other words, we will be questioned on how we spent everything that Allah has given us as implied in the following Hadith:

Narrated Abdullah Bin Mas`ud Allah's Messenger (PBUH) said:

"A man shall be asked concerning five things on the day of resurrection: concerning his life, how he spent it; concerning his youth, how he grew old; concerning his wealth, whence he acquired it, and in what way he spent it; and what was it that he did with the knowledge that he had."

The Prophet Mohammad (PBUH), used to call on Muslims to take the initiative to do good deeds before any obstacles arise. For instance, he said, "Lose no time to do good deeds before you are caught up by one of seven calamities awaiting you: a starvation which may impair your wisdom; a prosperity which may mislead you; an ailment which may damage your health; an old age which may harm your senses; a sudden death; the Dajjal (Antichrist); or Doomsday, which is indeed the hardest and most bitter." (at-Tirmidhi, al-Baihaqi)

The above Hadith urges Muslims to take the initiative, and not to delay good deeds; man's life is not free from impediments, such as those calamities, which can prevent him from accomplishing what could have been done earlier. Wise are those who grab available opportunities before being handicapped by obstacles.

If we are to evaluate ourselves objectively, have we been spending our time wisely for the pleasure of Allah the Almighty? Have we been spending our lives based on the Qur'an and the Sunnah? Have we been practicing Muslims? How many of us are Muminoon (Faithful Muslims) and/or Mutaqqoon (God Fearing Muslims)? How much knowledge of the Qur'an and the Sunnah do we know? Do we practice what we learn and impart the same to others or at least share them to our families and kin? Have we ever enjoined to others what is right and forbid what is wrong?

To be successful, we have to manage our time wisely by making plans for virtuous deeds that please Allah the Almighty. We must spend time learning Islam based on the Qur'an and the Sunnah.

Another Year Passes By and Time Marches On

O ye who believe! Fear Allah, and let every soul look to what (provision) He has sent forth for the morrow. Yea, fear Allah: for Allah is well-acquainted with (all) that ye do. Qur'an (59:18)

Another year has passed; minutes move into hours => into days => into weeks => into months => into years - seemingly faster than ever; yet every moment is a precious component of life and every moment counts.

Time - Use it, do not abuse it

Our attitude towards time indicates our attitude towards the value of the capital of life. If we want to purchase something, we require financial capital; and if we want to do something in life, we require the capital of life, time. That is why the Qur'an exhorts us to value the time we have before life is up. Qur'an (63:10)

Realize that...

Time is the measure of life, time is an amaanah (trust), time is a gift from the Creator and its proper use will determine our outcome for eternity.
We are born in time, live in time and die in time; time is the ambit within which we operate. What we do with time is what we do with our lives.
Each one must realize that every moment that passes by is an opportunity gone, used or abused; never to return. Soon time will be up and we'll have to leave this physical world and give account for our lives.
The more we remind ourselves of the responsibility of the present the better we get at living the moment and the better we live the present moment the better the consequence for the future.
Our attitude towards the future influences our mind-set towards the rest of life. Being positive about life ahead is among life's greatest motivators. Hope is the best attitude one can harbor towards the future; this realistic expectation that something good or better could/will happen if only we continue doing the best we can. Remember that today well-lived makes yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope.

Wise are the words of the one who said ... "I expect to pass through this world but once; any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now; let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again."

"O Allah! Make life a means for every dimension of goodness." [Prayer of the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH)]

The Characteristics of Time

We are to bear in mind that time has certain characteristics, among of which are the following:

Time passes quickly.
Time that passes can never return, nor can it be compensated for, for time is irretrievable.
Time is the most precious thing that man possesses.
Muslim's Duty towards Time:

Having all this great value and importance, time is to be duly appreciated and managed. In Islam there is no room for slogans like the so-called "killing time", for in Islam time is really valuable. In fact, wasting time is much more dangerous than squandering property, because unlike property, time cannot be compensated. Free time is a blessing that is overlooked, and not wholly appreciated by many people.

This indicates that it's very important for a Muslim to try his utmost to husband his time and make the best use of it in beneficial things. A Muslim may use portion of his time in making invocations and supplications, celebrating the praises of Allah. The Prophet Mohammad (PBUH), used to supplicate: "O Allah! I seek refuge in You from sorrow and distress, and I seek refuge in You from disability and laziness."

A Muslim should learn how to organize his time, and make a realistic plan for his worldly and religious duties, without any of them overlapping the other. That is to say that one should know how to arrange his priorities: the most important and the most urgent comes first, and carried out according to schedule. Organizing time also includes leaving a place for relaxation and entertainment, for 'all work and no play make Jack a dull boy.'

One of the methods of managing his time properly is for a Muslim to get up early and sleep early, for early hours always yield great blessings. Starting his day with prayer and the supplication of the morning brings the Muslim Allah's grace. A Muslim should always bear in mind that every time has its own task that suits it. Doing tasks in their due times brings about peace of mind and comfort.

Finally, we would like to cite the following Hadith of the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH), quoting from the Book of Ibrahim, peace be upon him: "A sane person, unless he is mindless, should have four hours: an hour to invoke to his Lord, an hour to count his own deeds, an hour to contemplate about the creation of Allah and an hour to satisfy his worldly needs."

Verily, time is very important for our success both in this temporary world and the eternal world to come. If we waste time, if we abuse it, then we waste and abuse our lives. In the Life Hereafter we will be among the losers, who will suffer the torments in the Hell Fire, if Allah the Almighty will not forgive us. Therefore, if we really give value to our lives then, we must give due value to the importance of time.

In general, sensible people know the importance of time.
Imagine there is a bank which credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day, allow you to keep no cash balance, and every evening cancels whatever part of the amount you had failed to use during the day.

What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course!

Well, everyone has such a bank. Its name is TIME. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose.

It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours.

There is no going back. There is no drawing against the "tomorrow". You must live in the present on today's deposits. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness and success! The clock is running. Make the most of today.

To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a student who has failed a grade.
To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who has given birth to a pre-mature baby.
To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of ONE DAY, ask a daily wage laborer who has kids to feed.
To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who has missed the train.
To realize the value of ONE SECOND, ask a person who has avoided an accident.
To realize the value of ONE MILLI-SECOND, ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics.

Treasure every moment that you have! And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time ... and remember that time waits for no one. . .

Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery, today is a gift, that's why it's called the present!

Interesting story

Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose parents emphasised for him to get married. They had seen so many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind.

However every time the parents left the girls house, the young man would always say "she's not the one!" The young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practising. (Which was hard to find). However one evening his mother arranged for him, to meet a girl, who was religious and practising.

On that evening, the young man and girl were left to talk and ask each other question (as one would expect). The young man, being a gentleman that, he was allowed, young lady to ask first.
Young girl asked the young man so many questions. She asked about his life, his education, his friends, his family, his habits, his hobbies, his lifestyle, his enjoyment, his time pass, his experiences, his shoe size and his likes and dislikes. Basically everything!

And the young man replied to all of her questions, without tiring and politely with a smile. Young girl took up nearly all of the time, over an hour and felt bad and asked the young man do you have any questions?

Young man said, yes, only have 3 questions...

Young girl thought, wow, only 3 questions okay, go ahead and shoot.
Young man's first question was, (1) Who do you love the most in the world, someone who's love nothing would ever overcome? She said,this is an easy question! Answer to your question is my mother.


Young man smiled and asked second question, (2) You said that you read a lot of Qur'an, could you tell me which Surahs you know the meaning of? Hearing this she went red and embarrassed and said I do not know the meaning of any yet, but I am hoping to soon Insha Allah I have just been a bit busy.
The third question the young man asked, was (3) I have been approached for my hand in marriage, by girls that are lot more prettier than you, why should I marry you? Hearing this, the young girl was outraged, she stormed off to her parents with fury and said I do not want to marry this man he is insulting my beauty and intelligence.

And the young man and his parents were once again, left without an agreement of marriage. This time, the young man's parentswere really angry and said what did you do to anger that young girl, the family was so nice and pleasant, and they were religious like you wanted. What did you ask the girl? Tell us!
Young man said, firstly I asked her,who do you love the most? She said,her mother. The parents said so, what is wrong with that?
Young man said, "no one, is Muslim, until he loves Allah *Subhana Wa Taala *and his Messenger more than anyone else in the world." If a woman loves Allah *Subhana Wa Taala *and Holy Prophet Muhammad *(Choicest blessing and peace be upon him) more than anyone, she will love me and respect me and stay faithful to me, because of that love and fear for Allah *Subhana Wa Taala . And we can share this love, because this love is greater than lust for beauty.

Young man said, then I asked, you read a lot of Holy Qur'an, can you tell me the meaning of any Surah? And she said no. because I haven't had time yet. So I remembered the saying of Imam Shafi'i, "All humans are dead except those who have knowledge .... And all those who have knowledge are asleep, except those who do good deeds .. And those who do good are deceived, except those who are sincere ... And those who are sincere are always in a state of worry (for others)."

She has lived 20 yearson this earth and not found any time, to seek knowledge, why wouldI marry a woman, who does not know her rights and responsibilities and what will she teach my children, except how to be negligent, because the woman is the Madrasah (school) and the best of teachers. And a woman, who has no time for Allah *Subhana Wa Taala , will not have time for her husband.
The third question I asked her was, that a lot of girls, more prettier than her, had approached me for marriage, why should I choose her? That is why she stormed off, getting angry.

Young man's parentssaid that is a horrible thing to say, why would you do such a thing; we are going back there to apologize. Young man said I said this on purpose, to test whether she could control her anger.

Holy Prophet Muhammad said "Do not get angry, do not get angry, do not get angry" repeatedly when asked how to become pious, because anger is from Satan.
If a woman cannot control her anger with a stranger she just met, do you think she will be able to control it with her husband?

So, the moral of this story is, a marriage is based on: Knowledge not looks, Practice not preaching, Forgiveness not anger, Spiritual love not lust and compromise!

One should look for a person who (1)Has love for Allah *Subhana Wa Taala *and his Messenger(2) Has knowledge of the deen (religion), and can act upon it(3) can control her anger and another important and crucial factor that she be (4)willing to compromise.

And it goes both ways, so women seeking a man, should look for the same things.
May Allah *Subhana Wa Taala *make every marriage a success and let us create Love for Allah and his Messenger so that Allah *Subhana Wa Taala *can bless us, and create love in our lives.

"There is no better structure founded in Islam other than marriage". Holy Prophet Muhammad Salalahu Alaihi wa Salam

Story Of Beautiful Woman Who Wish To Marry Pious Husband

There was this beautiful woman, who wanted to get married, but she wanted a very pious husband, so she said that she’ll marry the man who recites the whole Quran every single day, fasts for the whole year and stays awake and worships Allah all throughout the night. She was a very beautiful woman, and a lot of suitors wanted to marry her, but they knew they couldn’t fulfil the conditions she set.

Until this one man stepped forward and said he could fulfil them. So the Imam got both of them married. After the first night of the marriage, the wife sees that the husband doesn’t recite the whole of the Quran, nor does he fast, nor does he stay awake in the worship of Allah, she decided to let it roll on for a few weeks to see if there were any changes, there weren’t, so she filed a complaint and asked for a divorce.

They are both taken in front of the judge, and the judge asked, ‘What were the conditions of the marriage?’ the man replied ‘They were for me to recite the whole Quran daily, keep fast for the whole year and to worship Allah all throughout the night.’ The Judge asked, ‘ did you fulfil them? The man calmly answered, ‘…yes.’ The judge answers, ‘you lie, your wife has said that you don’t, that’s why she’s asking for a divorce’.

But the man insisted that he had fulfilled the conditions, so the judge asked, ‘did you recite the full Quran everyday?’ The man answered yes. The Judge, baffled asked, ‘how? How can you do that?’ The man coolly answered, ‘I recite Surah Ikhlas three times a day and according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), reciting Surah Ikhlas three times is equivalent to reciting the whole Quran.’ The Judge was intrigued, so he asked, ‘how did you fast the whole year?’ The man answered, ‘ I fasted for the whole month of Ramadan, then kept another six fasts in the month of Shawwal, according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), keeping all of the fast of Ramadan then keeping six fasts in the month of Shawwal, is as if you have fasted for the whole year.’

The Judge remained silent, he couldn’t give a reply saying the man was wrong, so finally he asked, ‘ how did you stay awake all night and worship Allah, when your wife saw you sleeping?’ The Judge thought the man wouldn’t be able to answer this one, but the man, cool as a cucumber answered, ‘I prayed Salatul Isha with jamaat, then the next day prayed Salatul Fajr with jamaat, according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), the one who prays Salatul Isha and Salatul Fajr with jamaat, it is as if he had stayed up all night worshipping Allah.’ The Judge sat there looking at the man; the final verdict was about to be released… He said to the man and his wife, ‘…go, just go, there is nothing wrong with this marriage.


The Pious Husband..

Marriage to him is one half of the deen,
To please Allah (swt) is more than a dream.
He wears his beard for his Lord, to please and obey,
He turns to Allah (swt) for Salah at least five times a day.

He prays in the night and makes sure to wake you,
And strives during daylight to provide and protect you.
He lowers his gaze with firmness because he does not desire,
To displease Allah (swt) and face His just ire,

He asks advice from the ummah, and his wife too,
Before making decisions that he might later rue.
To his wife he is humble and always most kind,
Sharing his burdens with strength and clear mind.

He opens his mouth only to say what is best,
Weighing all options ‘fore denying a request.
He takes care of himself and family too
Knowing that Allah (swt) will see them through.

He is a pleasure from Allah (swt) above
Be thankful to Allah (swt) and His blessings through love

Detailed discussions (evidence) on Aqeedah, Tassawuuf, Taqleed, & common Fiqh issues

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Fundamental Resources of Islam:

English Qur'aan Translation (By Mufti Taqi Usmani):

http://www.scribd.com/doc/48056037/E...Taqi-Usmani-HA

English Qur'aan Commentary of 30th Part (By Mufti Shafi Usmani (RA)):

http://www.esnips.com/doc/b91ee770-c...maariful_quran

Full English Translation of Riyadus-Saleheen (2 Volumes of Authentic Ahadeeth) [PDF]:
http://www.esnips.com/doc/352d5fc6-7...aleheen_bewley

Full English Translation of Al-Adab Al-Mufrad: Book of Islamic Manners (by Imam Bukhari (RA)):
http://www.esnips.com/doc/548d204c-5...c6/adab_mufrad

Shamail At-Tirmidhi (A necessary guide for all Muslims in adopting the lifestyle of Rasul-ullah Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam)
http://www.central-mosque.com/sunnah/index.htm

Hayatus-Sahaba (Lives of the Companions of the Prophet Muhammad [Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam] by Shaykh Maulana Yusuf Kandhalwi (RA) (PDF)

Duas from the Qur'aan & Sunnah
http://www.esnips.com/doc/9f271275-a...e9/sunnah_duas

Fazail-e-Namaaz (Virtues of Salat)
http://www.esnips.com/doc/d0a4d9ef-0.../fazaile_namaz

Fazail-e-Zikar (Virtues of Remeberance of Allah)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/fazaile_zikar.pdf

Fazail-e-Quraan (Virtues of Quraan)
http://www.central-mosque.com/quran/fazaile_quran.pdf

Fazail-e-Tabligh (Virtues of Tabligh [Dawa])
http://www.esnips.com/doc/275a589a-6...azaile_tabligh

Muslim degradation and its remedy
http://www.central-mosque.com/sunnah...generation.pdf

Fazail-e-Durood (Virtues of Salat Alan-Nabi)
http://www.esnips.com/doc/5525a0d8-c...fazaile_durood

Fazail-e-Hajj (Virtues of Hajj)
http://www.esnips.com/doc/b023bc31-c...f/fazaile_hajj

Aqeedah:
Aqeedah Al-Tahawiya (The beliefs of Ahlus-Sunnah Wal-Jamaa’h)
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/tahawi.htm

Al-Fiqh Al-Akbar by Imam Abu Haneefa (RA) [PDF]:
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/fiqakbar.pdf

Tafweedh, the Aqeedah of the Salaf:
http://the-deen.co.uk/forum/viewtopic.php?f=49&t=2778
http://www.darulhikmah.com/index.php...84&topic=469.0

Where is Allah (SWT)?
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/where.htm

If Allah (SWT) is Not UP then why did the Prophet go UP during Miraj (ascension)?
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/show...00&postcount=1

Shaykhul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (RA) on Karamat (Charismata) of Aulia Allah (SWT):
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/show...59&postcount=1

Are Ash'aris & Maturidies Ahlus-Sunnah? Should Ta'weel (interpretation) be made in Aqeedah?
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/Maturidies.htm

Imam Ash'ari (RA) Repudiating Asha'rism?
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/asharir.htm

Explaining Wahdatul Wujood and do Ulama of Deoband believe that Allah (SWT) is present everywhere?
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/wahdah.htm

Is it permissible for a Muslim to believe that Allah is in the sky in literal sense?
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/literal.htm

Literalism and the Attributes of Allah
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/literal2.htm

Tawassul and it's position in Islam
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/taw1.htm

Position of Tawassul and Waseela in Islam
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/taw2.htm

Establishing Matters of Aqeedah with AHAD Narrations?
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/aahad.htm

Kalam and Islam
http://www.central-mosque.com/aqeedah/kalislam.htm

Tassuwuuf:

http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/index.htm#TASAWWUF

Mawlana Ashraf Ali Thanawi's Conception of Islamic Mysticism
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/ashmyst.htm

Islamic Mysticism (Tassawuff) By Maulana Manzoor Naumani (RA)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/islmtass.htm

The Place of Tasawwuf in Traditional Islam
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/tass3.htm

Scholars on Sufism (Tasawwuf)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/earschtas.htm

The Four Poisons of the Heart
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/posiheart.htm


Taqleed:

Legal Status of following a Madhab (Mufti Taqi Usmani)!
[http://www.esnips.com/doc/d5d273fa-a...llowingAMadhab

What is Taqleed?
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/WhatIsTaqleed.htm

What is a Madhhab and why is it necessary to follow one?
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/WhatIsMadhab.htm

Taqleed or following of an Imam on matters of Shariah
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/oneimam2.htm

Why Muslims Follow Madhhabs?
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/madhhabk1.htm

Understanding the Four Madhabs
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/madhhabq1.htm

Madhab of Imam Abu Haneefa:

Imam A'zam Abu Hanifah (RA)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/hanifmy.htm

Upholding the Opinion that Imam Abu Hanifa was One of the Tabi`in
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/abuhanifa_tabi.htm

Academic Background of Imaam Abu Haneefa (RA)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/acadbackhn.htm

What Is The Evidence For The "Hanafi" Iqama?
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/haniqama.htm

Movie of Detailed method & postures for Salah (for Men):
http://youtube.com/watch?v=QsGEWn21mL8

Detailed method & postures for Wudhu, Tahara, Ghusl & Salah (PDF book):
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/Fiqh_of_Salah.pdf

The Laws of Menstruation,Postnatal Bleeding, & Dysfunctional Uterine Bleeding
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/detbleeding.pdf


Detailed Account of Prayer (Hanafi Madhab)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/Prayer.htm

The Sunna Prayers Related to the Obligatory Prayers: A Detailed Exposition
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/sunfardh.htm
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/sunobli.htm

The Fiqh of Voluntary (Nafl) Prayers:
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/fiqhnafl.htm

Joining ankles in prayers? Shaykh Salih al-'Uthaymin
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/anklshyuth.htm

Detailed discussion about the distance of feet in Salah
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/detdisfeet.htm

Differences in salah between men and women (Hanafi Fiqh)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/menwmdiff.htm

Detailed discussion about placing the hands beneath the Navel during Salaah being Sunnah
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/handsslh.htm

Detailed discussion about reciting behind the Imam during Salah
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/rectfth.htm

Detailed discussion saying Ameen Silently!
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/amensil.htm

Detailed discussion about Raf-ul-Yadain in Salah
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/detraf.htm

Tawarruk or Iftirash? How should men sit in Salah?
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/tawiftr.htm

Detailed discussion about Wit'r according in the Hanafi Fiqh
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/hanwitr.htm

Sunnah method and description of Wudhu
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/sunwudhu.htm

Sunnah method and description of Ghusl
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/sunghusl.htm

Sunnah method and description of Tayammum (Dry Ablution)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/suntayamum.htm

Sunnah Method & Description of Salah of a Muslim Man
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/salahman.htm

Sunnah Method & Description of Salah of a Muslim woman
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/salahwoman.htm

Sunnah Method & Description of Janazah Salah
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/salahjan.htm

Sunnah Method & Description of Eid Salah
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/salaheid.htm

Sunnah method & description of Salah of a Musafir (Traveller)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/salahmusafir.htm

Sunnah method & description of Umrah
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/sunumrah.htm

Sunnah method & description of Salah of Eclipse (Solar & Lunar)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/salaheclipse.htm

Two Adhans on Friday
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/twoadhan.htm

Detailed Account of Taraweeh Prayers (8 or 20)?
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/TaraveehPrayer.htm

Following the imaam until he finishes Taraaweeh (Shaykh Salih Al-Munajjid)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/fintarwh.htm

Differences in the Ummah and the Straight Path (Deobandi/Barelwi differences discussed at length and with evidence)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/diffumm.pdf

Magic & Satanic Influences:Its Kinds, Its Rulings & Protection
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/magic_rulings.pdf

HAJJ at a glance! (Simple 1 Page graphic HAJJ instructions: PDF)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/Hajj_Leaflet.pdf

HAJJ Duas & Intention (PDF)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/Haj_leaflet_duas.pdf

Simple Umrah & Hajj Guide (PDF)
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/simpleh.pdf

Fazail-e-Hajj (Virtues of Hajj) By Shaykhul Hadeeth Maulana Zakariyya (RA)

http://www.esnips.com/doc/b023bc31-c...f/fazaile_hajj

Magic & Satanic Influences:Its Kinds, Its Rulings & Protection
http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/magic_rulings.pdf